What is it about people who can never get themselves to share the intimate things in their lives?
Have you ever wondered that there's more to a person that meets the eye? That her/his life, which seems blessed and good, is actually not that good. That the fact that no matter how much better off they are, they are still messed up in their heads.
There are 2 kinds of people.
People who choose to share their misery, confide in people and let others know that they are vulnerable and hurt.
And then there are those who can never get themselves to share anything that makes them seem weak.
People who choose to share their misery, confide in people and let others know that they are vulnerable and hurt.
And then there are those who can never get themselves to share anything that makes them seem weak.
Maybe it's not about what kind of a person they are. Maybe it's more about who they choose to confide in.
But how do you know in whom and when to confide? And what about the things that you are too ashamed to share? The things that give a wrong impression of things close to you, things that define you - like your friends or family or your own self.
What about things like being exploited by a loved one, sexual or mental harassment or both, domestic violence, drinking problems, parental problems, spouse issues?
What if the person sitting next to you, who's smiling away and making jokes is going through any of that but he is too ashamed to share? Or maybe who simply don't want you to see the bad in their loved ones.
So you see the pain of people only when they tell you. What about the ones who are not like them? The ones who don't go around telling others that they have certain issues because neither they want sympathy nor they want pity.
It's obviously true that there will be someone you will confide in. Someday. But till that someday, what if people you want to understand you, leave you for someone who chose to make themselves look weak?
I don't know which one of those two is in better place, which one is happy in the end. Sharing the things and gaining sympathy or having a smile plastered on your face?
But that is a question I ask myself everyday.
2 comments:
Some questions hold their exact places when remain unanswered...some ppl choose to share things not just for sympathy, not just for attention..its just coz they love sharing with others n whatever they get in return they accept it...n some will ask thousand questions within before they share..sleepless nights for them.."introverts" in wiki term!..:D
Well d picture on d top of this page reminds me of d time when i was much younger than m at d very moment..i useto cast stones horizontally over d surface of a pond..sometimes some stones (though initiated by d same hand n equal force) would get lost in deep shallow immediately...while some would bounce for a moment...same with those two kinds of ppl u mentioned..
I believe one cannot be d same person always..weak or strong..n in d end i think nothing matters.. by d way when is d end?
You are right. Some people share only because they feel good about it. And yes, you cannot survive being the same person in this world.
These questions, probably, will always be unanswered. Because there are no answers to such questions. Sometimes I wish there were, sometimes not. Who knows if we are ready for them or not.
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